Becoming your true self (or ideal self)

Hi !

I like to think about the person that I am and to what I can do to improve myself and become my ideal self. 
If you take a minute and think about it, would you want to improve anything in your life?
It can be related to the skills that you have, to your look, to your relationships, to your level of happiness, to your career, to your hobbies,…
In my opinion, we can always set goals for ourselves so that we can become truer to ourselves. But first, you need to realize what kind of person you want to be.

Tony Robbins says that to become the person that he is now, he had to think a lot first.
What he did was to answer 3 questions for every area of his life.

1. Who am I, right now?
2. Who do I want to be?
3. How can I get there?

I did this exercice for my “romantic relationships” area and this is what I came up with. 

1. Who am I, right now?
Hi. I am caring, loyal, reserved but extraverted too. I am spiritual, happy and different.
I’ve always been with guys who don’t see the real worth in me.
I’ve always been with guys who have their little secret, who have something to hide. And then I don’t want to look crazy so I don’t bother asking.
And I feel I never was with anyone who truly loved me. I think it was kind of superficial to them. Or they just weren’t ready for a relationship.
I feel I’m kind of naive too because I believe that everyone’s really good at heart, but then I give too many chances to people who don’t deserve it.
What I mean is that I deserve better than what I had in the past years.

2. Who do I want to be?

I want to be that independent but loving woman every man dreams to be with. I want to make someone happy, but I want to feel loved and special. It won’t only be about sex. I need that intimacy side that always lacked. I want to have real conversations with my man. I want a man who’ll respect me. A man for who I’ll mean so much to him. A man that’ll make everything to make me happy. I want to be that sexy, loving and caring girlfriend. That surfer girlfriend he’ll be proud to introduce to everyone he knows. And I want to feel the same way. Be proud of my man, for who he is, and what he does. I don’t want to have to make excuses for his actions.  It’ll have to be real and true.

3. How can I get there?

I have to stop going back to these people first.
Start going out more, meeting more people.
But I think I have to work on myself first. And that’s what I’m doing, right?
I want to be a surfer, look like a surfer and breath like one.
I have to meditate. Learn to love unconditionally. Love everyone. Even those who hurt me.
But love myself enough to never accept anything less than what I truly deserve.
I have to start meeting people from the surf community in Montreal. Maybe go to their parties?
I have to learn to be more independent.
Learn spanish,
Work on my surfing skills.
Be fit… go to the gym haha.

—This is not so organized because it is a resume of 3 pages that I could easily write on this topic. I just felt like sharing this because I don’t really know anyone personally here, but at the same time, I feel like I know some of you too.
–Send me the link if you do this exercice too, I’d love to read it. 
–And please I want to know if you have any idea of how I can get to my ideal self 🙂 Or just have any thoughts on the topic.

Night,
Chloé xxx